We all have been told that we should set goals, and we believe that we can, but most of us have never been taught how to set goals effectively to make them realistic and achievable.
It has taken me quite a long time to discover how to effectively set realistic goals.
As I made mistakes and figured out what worked for me, I thought I was unusual – I even thought that everyone easily set goals except for me.
Over the years of experience, however, I’ve learned my situation was not that unusual at all.
The truth is, it’s far more common than we think.
Before you set yourself goals, ask yourself what is really important to you in life.
Put your values in the hierarchy. The knowledge of your highest values will give you the opportunity to do in life what gives you a really deep satisfaction. And that, as a result, gonna give you true happiness.
By knowing that, the goals you set will always flow from the depths of your heart. That is, in my opinion, the best way to define the direction in which you will, from now on, follow.
So, what can you do to keep your goals on track?
Rule #1 – Write Your Goals Down
Make sure to write your goals down and refer to them daily to keep them at the front of your mind.
Surveys have shown, that if you write your goals down you are far more likely to achieve them. It also helps make them real to us. It’s because merely thinking about a goal it’s not physically real and, as result, we are easily changing our minds.
However, the very act of writing it down helps us assign to the goals and also gives us something we can actually see and reflect on.
Rule #2 – Set Yourself Goals That Gonna Change Your Life Here And Now.
Your aims should have a positive impact on your everyday life, starting today.
If you feel that your goal makes your confidence and motivation rising, makes you think positively about your future, that’s great. It means you have chosen right.
If instead it gives you a vision of hard work only, and the target doesn’t inspire you, doesn’t give you motivation – change it to another one.
If you want to make your life exceptional, make sure that the whole way to achieve your goals was a great adventure.
As part of choosing your life path set yourself goals that give you great motivation and desire to act.
Each of us has this energy, we just need to find the right direction that will help to sprout our inner strength. The wrong goal does not connect in any way with our internal needs, desires and interests.
Lack of motivation is an unnatural state, which gives us the information that we are not going in the right direction.
The true human nature is a state of great motivation and willingness to act!
Rule #3 – Set Short Term Milestones and Be Specific.
Aims that are far out of reach are easy to procrastinate on.
It’s fine to have long-term dreams but you should have regular milestones as well.
For example, if your goal is to write a novel, commit to a certain number of pages or words a month rather than just saying you’ll write a novel this year.
These short-term milestones will help you stay on track, and will make your long term goal much more manageable.
Therefore, dream big, but take baby steps and you’ll get where you want to be much faster and with less effort.
Instead of aiming to lose 12 pounds in 3 months, break this goal into smaller and easier-to-reach milestones: losing 2 pounds in 2 weeks. It’s not that overwhelming, and consequently, there is less chance that you will procrastinate on taking action.
Next important thing is to know when you’ve achieved it.
“Getting in shape”, “exercising regularly”, “learning Spanish”, “making tonnes of money” are just some of the examples of goals that have no clear destination point in mind.
If your goal is to “get in shape”, how will you know when you’re done? How will you know if you are in shape? Does it mean that you should be able to run a marathon, without stopping? Or that you should lose a few inches around your waistline?
The more specific you are, the better motivated you’ll be as you get closer to achieving your goal.
With uncertain goals, it’s very easy to lose motivation, because you may not feel like you’re getting closer to due to having no clear end in sight.
Make your goal super-specific and measurable, so that you know exactly when you’ve achieved it.